Dear my loyal readers,

    As it is the last day of 2012 I look back on the past year of my life and think of all that I’ve accomplished and dealt with. I have literally been the happiest I’ve been in the last 3 years. That’s a long time but through all that drama and frustration I’ve come out a better woman.
      At the beginning of the year I got a new roommate because the last one was horrid, a complete black ball of negative energy that brought me really down. The new roommate  ended up being a shining light in my life that I needed and though our friendship was slow we soon became friends and went out on the weekends to clubs and dinner. When I came home for the summer I was so excited to be home and worked with my father which was nice. But the last six months have really be great to me and through my summertime revelation  I began to really enjoy life again and to be happy.
      3 years ago I went to school in London and it changed my life forever and every day I wish I could go back there and relive every moment; but I can’t all I can do is enjoy the memories and great friends I made along the way! But when I came home from that I was depressed and felt like I couldn’t connect with anyone, nobody went through what I just did and I was angry and upset. I was in a dark place for a long time, I took a year off after I got my Associates degree and just worked but I soon wanted to go back to school. So I applied and got into the school I’m at now and I thought it was going to lift my spirits finally and I’ll be happy. But it didn’t, the school the people and the place was so foreign to me, more foreign than living in freaking London! I fought the change, and having a horrible roommate was even worse. I look back and am so glad she moved out, so glad I got a great new roommate and I was finally feeling like I fit in with my new environment.
      Now I have two roommates that are awesome and we might not be on the same page about everything but we get along great, we go out and have fun at the clubs and it's amazing. I was only at a low point in the beginning of this semester when my new roommates wanted to hang out with their new friends and I wanted to go out and do something else, I ended up staying with them the whole night and didn’t have any fun, nor the next night when we went out to get dinner. I realized that I shouldn’t put myself in situations like that, If I don’t like something I should just get out of the place. It was a horrible weekend and I was pissed but when school started again I felt better in no time.  I always do small things for myself because I have to make myself happy before anyone else and I don’t care if I feel silly doing it or mean I need to do it.
         As I’ve said before you need to do things for yourself and through all the drama it’ll all work out. The universe will provide and I can’t believe how great I’m feeling now. I hope all of you beautiful ladies can look back through this past year and find the good things you did, why they made you happy. But also look at the bad because they made you stronger and who you are today! For me I struggle with everything in life and I have to work twice as hard to go through life and some days I just wish life was easier, that I could get things like everyone else but I don’t and that makes me who I am. I am a fighter and I know I’ll succeed in the end, whether in big ways or small everyday accomplishments.
          You need to have faith in yourself that you can do it, have loving supporting people around you and enjoy the moments because that will make you happy beyond anything. I know that each day you can struggle but in the wise words of Tupac Shakur... “ Through every dark night there’s a bright day after that, so no matter how hard it gets, stick your chest out, keep ya head up and handle it” He as helped me in more ways than one in realizing how beautiful I am and to “ Smile through all the bullshit” Because you get it everyday but just smile because you are a stronger person than that and you can succeed.

          In the end I found it amazing how some close friends, some rest and solitude can truly change you. Self reflection and opening your eyes to a whole new world; like when I met Jeremy Renner are great things to nurture you soul. I have also felt like I don’t worry about things that much like boys or stupid things I shouldn’t have to worry about. So I’m thankful for all the things that have impacted my life this year, and all the people who’ve helped me along the way and to my own independent character for helping me step outside of my zone and enjoying life to the fullest.


LOVE,
    V.Supergirl

" Believe that dreams come true everyday, because they do!" -One Tree Hill

Positive Body Image

Happyy Belated Halloween.. I hope you all had a safe and fun night!! I love Halloween but didn’t get to celebrate at all.. but I did have a slammin costume that I wore on a night out even though it was past Halloween.
    


       I have always wanted to be tall, so I could be a model... but that didn't happen and I kinda hated being short for a while. My older male cousin told me when I was a teenager.. " Don't worry, when you go to college guys will like shorter girls!" He himself is about 6'2, so it made me feel good. So I went through the next few years noticing that guys did like me because I was shorter.
     I also hated that since I wasn't growing taller my body didn't develop the way I wanted it to either. I have really small boobs but a cute booty which I love. I have been fortunate  to have a few celebrities to look up to with smaller chests like Cameron Diaz, Gweneth Paltrow and Zoe Saldana, Mila Jovovich and Julia Stiles. There's also  Kristin Dunst, Kiera Knightly  and Kate Hudson. I mean they have really small tata's which is good because they haven't chosen to get breast enhancements like other celebrities have or feel pressure to have. Though some have stated they'd rather have some curves because they are tall and willowy but they still are secure enough in there bodies to not get one.
    I also think that females have this huge pressure to conform to what a man wants or with the public image that is around us everyday. But that’s a totally other topic to go down another time! I think the message and video for TLC’s Unpretty is so important to talk about; I’ve loved them since No Scrubs came out and I think that both video’s have a great message but Unpretty is great because Chilli didn’t get a breast enhancement like her boyfriend wanted her to have. The larger girl embraced her fuller figure and not wanted to be a stick thin model! It’s a beautiful story about embracing the beautiful woman you are born to be and not try to be someone else!

   I want you ladies to find positive role models who you admire because of there body image! Also find things that you LOVE about your own body and embrace it!! No matter how small or few it is.

The things I LOVE about myself are :

   My eyes/ eye color
        Eyebrows and lashes
        Arms b/c they're muscular to my liking
        Thighs
         Feet
         My booty.


The only thing I sorta have a problem with is my boobs and my nose from the profile. It's not something I notice all the time anyway or think about constantly, so I'm not going to change it! I want you to also embrace your faults or the parts you don't really like because If I though of getting a nose job than I'd look different and I don't want to change that, or if I got a boob job I might be disproportionate with my body and my booty.

So think of positive women that you look up to because they embrace who they are and what they look like, I want to make sure this is just about Body Image.. not necessarily about being a positive role model.. that's another topic I'll talk about also. But if you are voluptuous and  look up to Jill Scott, Melissa McCarthy, or  Christina Hendricks love that about yourself!! You are beautiful no matter what! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise because they don't love you the way you need to be loved!


      I also want to put up these two articles from Us Magazine, I know probably not the most reliable but these women do say great things. First is Cheryl Cole from the UK, I absolutely LOVE her and she’s been through a horrible divorce and still manages to look amazing and come out with a new kick ass album< A Million  Lights> and the fact that people think she’s fat is bonkers! She has a great body, great boobs and perfect bum.. so the fact that people criticize her is just a shame.. the only thing big about her is her amazing Hair!!!
http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-body/news/cheryl-cole-stop-calling-me-fat----im-a-size-6-20122610


       Than Kelly Osbourne another Brit who’s battled weight loss through the years and looks great now also has gotten bullied for being fat. She also stated that you should reevaluate your circle of friends and if they put you down for being fat or hang around you because it makes THEM feel better than you don’t need that. I am proud of Kelly for finding a place where she is happy and can love herself more.
http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-body/news/hot-kelly-osbourne-shows-off-slim-bikini-bod-in-hawaii-before-brother-jacks-wedding-2012810



“To the people who love you, you are beautiful already. This is not because they’re blind to your shortcomings but because they so clearly see your soul. Your shortcomings then dim by comparison. The people who care about you are willing to let you be imperfect and beautiful, too."- Victoria Moran

  Bonjour Ladies!!! 

         I'm so sorry It's been so long since I've posted something but I've  been so busy, but I promise to post on a regular basis!!! Hope you are all enjoying my thoughts,  Email me yours!! I'll write back! :) xo


     Someone once said it's important who you surround yourself with, the five people that help you greatly. In life you will have lots of people coming and going in your life, some really close friends some mere  acquaintances but they all influence you in some way.
   Having a good group of people you surround yourself with help you everyday. Weather in a small way like you know they're just there for support or having some one who's always there for you no matter what.

  My top five people are:

   1. Mother
   2. Sister
   3. Dad
   4. Nadie, Kristin and Dionne
   5. Toby

     My mom is my best friend, and she's also my mother. I can talk to her about anything and I know she will always hands down have my back.
     My sister will always be there for me just because she's my sister. We've been through tough times but we've always had a close relationship and I know I can call her to vent or ask advice about.
    Now my father and I are very much alike... We might not like similar music exactly or play chess but we bother are very honest, hard of hearing; we look alike and are strong hard workers! We both struggle in life but always manage to overcome those obstacles. I know he will always support me also.
     Nadine Kristen and Dionne I met 3 years ago when I was away at school. We where the four musketeers or the "Traveling Sisters who Wear Pants" as we call ourselves. Through them I found what it's like to have three girls looking out for you, we could talk about anything and just always have a great time. I had a strong stable relationship with them that I'll never forget or lose.
     Toby and I have been friends for five almost six years, I always thought here was something more to our relationship but through the years learned to let go and I found that I could always call or text him for advice and he would be honest and understanding. I realize now that I'm so happy to have him as a friend because through it all I know he'll be there to help me out anytime.

     In order to succeed in life you have to have people around you that bring you up, not tear you down. That's a very VERY important lesson my friend told me and it's true. Once you get rid of those people or friends that aren't helping you you feel great!
   I've done that in my life, stop talking to friends because they weren't helping me. I didn't see a spot for them in my life. Life's short to be bogged down by negative, selfish, inconsiderate people.
      Sometimes people stop talking to you because of the same reason. One of my best friends who I spoke with almost every day, hung out with all the time out of the blue stopped talking to me. I  don't know if I offended her or she just decided she didn't want to be my friend anymore. I was hurt because It was so sudden, I called and left text messages. It was like breaking up with someone, I didn't know what i did wrong and I was upset. It's been a year and half now and I'm perfectly fine, she obviously made up her mind and didn't need me in her life. I also didn't need her because she brought me down.
   You need to be friends with people who are like you, will try new things with you, be open to do fun creative things and not be afraid.
  Your top five people should love you unconditionally and just with a few words make you feel like a million bucks and that you can conquer the world!

      hope you look at your life and figure out who loves you for you and who are the people bringing you down. Support people you care about and they will support  you!

LOVE,
 Virgin Supergirl.

An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild
beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend
will wound your mind.
    - Buddha

   Hello Ladies, 

   Being a college student I go to school and look forward to doing things with friends, making new ones, and joining clubs. I look forward to that camaraderie with the people my age.

   While other people live for camaraderie - going to parties, being in a sorority, and generally being with people, I love doing things on my own! I love going for walks on my own, or go to the movies, driving around, or shopping. While others girls don't, I am perfectly happy being with myself and doing things by myself.
    You have to do whatever makes you happy! Whether going out on your own or doing something you never thought you would do and always wanted to do. Little things like that work wonders to your mind and body and how you grow and what you accomplish.
      This summer, although I didn't get a lot of free time to go clubbing, or  go out on dates, I found time to do things just for me! I met up with a couple of girlfriends I haven't seen in a long time -  we made plans and made it happen! I ran my dad's business for a week while he was away and landed him some jobs! I also went to New York City, got to see my favorite underground artist Alexz Johnson from the Canadian T.V. Show Instant Star. I had the best time and my dream came true!
     The best thing I did this summer was meet Jeremy Renner! His new movie premiered in the city and so my girlfriends and I stood across the street from the theater. We stood with our camera's ready; standing next to groups of crazy girls. His car rolled up and in a frenzy that seemed to hum slowly down the line of us, the fans, as he walked on down and signed autographs. He poked his head underneath the array of pictures shoved in front of my face and said "Hello." I smiled. IT changed my life forever.
    When you meet a famous person, you know what you're going to say in your head, you practice it over and over like a mantra. " You're such a great actor, I love you!" OK, maybe that last part makes me out to be a CRAZY fan, but I really would have said, "Jeremy your awesome and I think you do a really amazing job." But, the moment they step in front of you, for that brief moment you look into their eyes and all you do is just smile, you hand them whatever souvenir to sign. Whatever does come out of your mouth is incoherent jabber or something totally stupid that doesn't have anything to do with the amazing actor who's now walking away. It was truly life changing and has helped me realize that I can write this blog and I don't have to worry about being a Virgin. In some weird way, meeting Jeremy Renner that day in the city changed me in a beautiful way and I wish I can tell him in person soon.

   Go out and do something every day, a few times a week or just once every couple of weeks. Just for you. You never know, It might just change your life and give you a new sense of happiness! That is the most important thing: To make yourself happy, because no one can except for you!!

      Your success and happiness lies in you. Resolve to keep happiness and your joy and you shall form an invincible host against difficulties.

LOVE, V.Supergirl

Jeremy Renner and Alexz Johnson! <3

Greetings Fellow Virgins,

           I figured I'd jump right into this and I'd like to start with the topic that I just realized only a few weeks ago. I had been talking to a guy, let's call him Donny, and Donny and I quickly became friends because we where working on a project together. He was very handsome, in a rough way. I thought he was so attractive! We were at his place to work on our project but we stayed up talking instead. I have to mention he has ADHD, so naturally, his brain was all over the place. Have I already said he is very handsome? On the third night we were hanging out he asked me what the longest I'd been in in a serious relationship. So when I told him I had never been in a serious relationship he, of course, asked me if I was a virgin. It took him by surprise, however he didn't see it as a "bad thing". He later told me if I wanted to have sex with him, he'd be ready to go. I was surprised when he didn't run for the hills and we talked throughout the semester. He understood that I wasn't going to have sex with him because I didn't want to just have sex. He figured we could please each other in other ways, but I wasn't going to do anything like that either. By the end of the semester I was definitely tempted to have sex with him. One night he invited me over at two in the morning and demanded me to come over. I didn't. I think ever since then he might have moved on. So I never got to say goodbye to him before I left to go home. I thought he would text me but you know how that goes. I started working at home and when I didn't hear from him, it drove me crazy! I began worrying about  what I did wrong, what I could have done, and maybe IF I had had sex with him he would have texted me. It was a horrible few weeks, but I slowly got over him. Two months went by and I realized that I had been so desperate to have sex with Donny, or any guy I was talking to. Although I didn't feel any pressure to have sex with Donny, I still thought that if I had sex with him when I had the chance he would have talked to me during my summer home. However, I find that If you're that desperate to have sex with someone it is probably not meant to happen. Or you'll fall for anything! If guys tell you you look great in those jeans or you have amazing eyelashes - I've been told that before, he is probably charming his way to your pants. If you're desperate, you WILL fall for it and possibly loose your virginity to someone who doesn't care at all about you. It has been four months since I spoke to Donny, and I don't need to! I'm SO glad I didn't loose my virginity to a guy who wasn't looking for anything serious - a red flag. Run for the hills because that guy doesn't want what you're looking for.
      My friend, whom we'll call Holly, told me of her virgin friend, who I've met a few times. "Kelly" had gotten so drunk when they went out to a country club that she was making out with four guys. She ended up having SEX with one of them in the back of the ally behind the club! She barely remembers this because she was blacked-out drunk. I was shocked when Holly told me, I thought it was disgusting and trashy. I realized that as much as I liked Kelly she was very desperate to have sex and ended up doing it in the worst way possible! I want to emphasize the difference of sex between someone who is desperate and someone who is looking to be in a serious relationship.

    I, now, realized that I WAS desperate. I thought If I didn't have sex with Donny or another guy I would have been the biggest loser, as if there is NO ONE else out there willing to have sex with me. Please, do not feel pressure or desperate. In the long run you might regret it and you don't want that to happen! Believe that there is someone out there who will make you feel special, who will chase after you and make you feel like a million bucks. He's out there you just have to trust yourself.

“Dont let someone become a priority in your life when you are always an option in their life”

Love and  Rockets,

VS.

    AS A YOUNG GIRL I wanted my High School life to be great! I wanted to be cool, to have big boobs and have lots of friends. I don't know why - I guess because it's what I saw on T.V., or what the girls where wearing in high school. When I finally got there I wasn't popular - I didn't have big boobs and the boys made fun of me. My doctor told me when I was fifteen that I was done growing to a towering 4'11 and I almost cried.
     I WENT THROUGH high school with some low and high moments. I didn't have a boyfriend and went on a "first date" when I was a senior, if you can call it that. I also wanted to go to prom with someone hot, a good piece of eye candy - that didn't happen either, but I ended up looking great and had a blast! None of my girlfriends had real serious relationships so I didn't feel pressure. Besides, all the guys in my school were jerks so I graduated and went to my community college.

    THROUGH THE years I met guys, went on dates but hadn't found anyone I felt comfortable with enough to call my boyfriend. I hooked up with some guys but it nothing serious. Still, in the back of my head I wanted to be in a relationship, to have sex, to have that "first love" experience. Even if

I did meet a cute guy who I actually really liked he was either taken or didn't like me. But with all my unsuccessful relationships and dates I have learned what I want and don't want.
     RECENTLY within the last year or so I have felt the pressure to have sex since now I'm back at college, my friends have lost their V-card, and mostly because of my age. Am I unattractive to guys? Is it because my boobs aren't big enough? Do I not have witty comebacks? Is it my glasses? Short body, sometimes quiet disposition?
      SOMETIMES I think and don't feel as pretty as other girls, and sometimes I feel super sexy. I try to have Tonight by John Legend in my head because sometimes I have that moment when you walk into a room and all the guys look at you - where you are empowered and embody grace and beauty. It feels amazing. However, I don't have a boyfriend, I don't have someone to cuddle with, no one to just call and say "lets go to the movies", no one to walk on the beach with, or anyone go out to eat dinner with.

     GOING BACK to college is another hard thing because that's all that guys want to do - hook up, "cuddle". I feel like, "DUDE, I just met you". I'm not going to do that! I also don't like being seen openly as a challenge to a guy. I'm not slutty for a reason, don't jump my bones!  I want a guy to want to win me, but because he likes me not because he wants to have sex with a virgin just to add another notch on his belt.

    SO I'M WRITING this to all the girls and women who are struggling with the ideas about sex, who are undecided about their sexual life surrounding their virginity - like myself. It's your decision. You can always ask for advice from friends and family - male or female. But listen up, YOU have the POWER! This summer, I found myself again. I realize my dreams and goals aren't crazy. I've also realized I want to have sex with someone who appreciates me in every way I need to be loved. If it's meant to happen the universe will provide! I'm a 23 year old virgin who is learning to fully love myself, my flaws and everything I about myself. I need to have faith in and never give up!!!

"Don't give up... Don't ever give up."

Love,
  Virgin Supergirl